Prologue: As you know, this year (2024) we’re diving into the great transformation that’s occurring in the very design of human consciousness. We’ll start from the beginning, from childhood, and work our way up using information and tools that can help propel us into our new selves, our authentic identities. This intimate connection with Source is our birthright. This is an amazing journey, which we will take one step at a time. Before we dive into the potential for our new transitional self, let’s take a step back in time and look at what has unconsciously shaped our reality from the beginning.
Quantum physics shows us that we are part of the universal whole, that love is our very nature. We all want and need love. So, why do we learn to separate from love?
We humans have the conviction that we are separate individuals, that we stand alone in the world separate from other people. This belief begins in childhood because we absorb our identity from the environment in which we find ourselves. Over time this deep belief shapes and defines our sense of self and how we experience life as an adult.
However good our parents were, we have experienced the absence of holding, a certain kind of emptiness when our needs were not specifically met. We began to not trust our surroundings. We drop our gentle, delicate, finely tuned nature, grow out of our softness, and harden into life.
What is love: An infant knows when it is not loved. It experiences the Impact of not feeling loved. Hameed says in Love Unveiled: Discovering the Essence of the Awakened Heart:
Most often the arrival of a child is just a fulfillment of someone’s needs and expectations…A child may have been longed for, but not welcomed for who that child really is, or the parents see the child as an extension of themselves. So, when they say, ‘I love you,’ it’s more about them than the child. Maybe the child was not what the parents expected, but then it’s their duty to love, but it’s not because of who you actually are.
So, what happens if our parents are unable to love us for who we really are? There is a wound that comes from not being truly loved. (To explore how this wound has developed in you, ask yourself some repeating questions, a technique I learned when I was in the Diamond approach.) As you answer the same question again and again, draw from anytime in your life because your present life carries early imprints from your early life.
Exercise: Ask yourself the following question again and again and again. In what way have I ever felt unloved? Write down all your answers. How is this early programming affecting you today?
Many of us don’t allow ourselves to feel love in certain situations, or with certain people, because we would feel the pain, hurt, or disappointment from the past. These feelings trigger the deprivation around not getting love in general.
If you’d really like to learn even more about yourself, go ahead and ask yourself this second repeating question: What prevents me from feeling love? (I’d love it if you would take a moment and write me a note to tell me what you discovered through these repeating questions.) Much love to you and your journey to love.