This post is #8 in the blog series: Heart. See the series overview page for a list of all posts.
This Personal Heart Dialogue is a key tool for discovering what the heart has to say. I love this exercise! I’ve come to use it spontaneously when I’m curious about what’s happening on the inside. I use this dialogue in the middle of a muddle, or in the middle of the night when I find myself awake. I’ve used this exercise with my family, sent it off to friends and emailed it to inquiry partners.
The following exercise is based on the latest brain research, but who cares, because by now we realize that the heart trumps the brain every time. The brain only receives information, but heart consciousness is what leads the way. When our heart is open it moves us toward our best self, to our truth. When our heart gets shut down, our consciousness becomes limited. We move off center and often find ourselves amuck. When we are willing to engage in a dialogue with our heart, the simplicity of what we find is often surprising and profound. We find that our heart really does know best. I am excited to share this exercise with you.
Personal heart dialogue
Let’s begin with a basic outline of the procedure, along with a bit of information about what may be experienced. (I have encountered this procedure in various forms. What follows is a simple compilation of what I have found to work.)
- Shift focus from mind to heart. Keep focus in the heart.
- Shift to slower breathing. Four counts on the inhale, eight counts on the exhale. Try six on exhale if needed. (I do about 15 complete breaths, in and out.)
- Choose a positive feeling. Feel gratitude, love, peace, abundance, whatever. Say thanks for all the things you have in your life. Place your hand on your heart if you wish.
- Ask your heart three questions. The first two questions will always be the same. “My heart, my heart, what do you want me to know right now?” Next, “My heart, my heart, what do you need from me right now?” The third question will be one of your own, whatever you’d like to ask. Make your question concise. Use a single sentence or a brief phrase. Be direct. Most of us have something that we would like to ask. Maybe we are looking for direction, have something to decide or have a question about life. Your question can be about anything–a job, relationship, health, healing, how you live, etc.
- Begin each question with the words, “My heart. My heart.” The answers that come will be brief, direct, concise, objective, and non-judgmental. Answers may come as images, feelings, words, or sensations. Everyone is different. Your answers will feel right on. If you are getting a lot of judgements, open your eyes, shift, do some more slow breathing to get out of your head, and begin again. Do not chase answers. Let the answers come gently to you.
OK, it’s time to give it a try! Just follow the steps below to discover what your heart wants you to know. Let your heart talk to you. Don’t try too hard, just let the answer float in.
- Shift your focus from mind to heart. Slide your brain down into your heart.
- Shift to slower breathing, 4 counts on inhale, 8 on exhale.
- Choose a positive feeling, keep it in your heart.
- Ask questions. Begin each question with the words, “My heart, my heart.” (Close your eyes and just let the answer drift in.)
1st Q: My heart, my heart, what do you want me to know right now?
2nd Q: My heart, my heart, what do you need from me right now?
3rd Q: Now ask your specific question. Let the answer come to you. “My heart, my heart………….”
When you are done, inhale, release, open your eyes and become present.
I hope you find this Personal Heart Dialogue as eye-opening as I do. Remember, memories and information are stored in the quantum field, beyond the mind. Our bodies serve as antennas to receive information from that field. As Gregg Braden says in the Forbidden Science course, “This is a highly advanced, technological ability that we humans have. Machines will never be able to do this.” Many researchers, like HeartMath and Dawson Church have already demonstrated that we humans can sense beyond the limits of time and space by using specialized neurons in the heart. And of course, you’ll remember that the Circle of Light explains that we humans actually have Superhuman Powers when we are willing to engage.
One reason I love to present this Personal Heart Dialogue is because it’s great in all kinds of situations. You may use it when you want to create, write a book, start a project, take a risk, or discover something new. When you are working to create something, write a book like, start a project, take a risk, discover something new. When you inquire deep within, this exercise will trigger your neurons to configure in just the right way to attune to the place in the field that holds the information you are seeking. A real-life example follows.
Rose’s heart dialogue inquiry
A good friend, who is also a subscriber to this website, called me in distress. She said, “I don’t know what to do! I don’t know how to inquire. I feel awful. I want to look into this, but don’t know how.” Rose talks. I listen, take a few notes, and make a few comments.
Rose: I’m so upset. My husband is so gruff—wanting things his old-fashioned way. My mind keeps going back to the past, haunting me. You know, women weren’t treated very well back then. We were second class citizens. ‘Good girls don’t do this; good girls don’t do that. Keep your dress down. Listen to your father. Be good. You need to do what’s right for your husband, for your children. You don’t know what’s best. Just go along. Be nice.’ I can’t stand it. I just want to be myself! I want to explode. I feel awful. I don’t want to feel like this. I don’t want to look into this, but if I don’t, I’ll be by-passing my heart. And I don’t want to do that.
Me: Wow, Rose, you really seem to be in a quandary. You don’t want to explore, yet you think you should, and you don’t think you know how to do it.
Rose: I don’t know what to do.
Me: Why don’t we just stay open and see what happens.
Rose: OK. I’m going to slow down and take a look at what comes up…. I notice I feel stress in my legs. They feel kind of sluggish. (observation) Maybe it’s because I have COVID. (analysis) I’ve got to move through this by-pass. (judgement) (Note: the statements in parentheses are all coming from the head.)
Me: What’s going on in your heart right now?
Rose: Oh yeah, like in the heart meditation. I’m going to breathe and ask my heart about this situation. “My heart, my heart, what do you want me to know right now?”
Heart: You need not analyze. You need not judge.
Rose: “My heart, my heart, what do you need from me right now?”
Heart: Follow the wisdom of your heart.
Rose: “My heart, my heart, what do I do now?”
Heart: Stay close to home. Go out in the sun. See how your feel. Let us speak to you.
Rose: Oh, something is happening right now. There’s a deepening thing going on. I need to own it more. I was putting past hurt into what I’m feeling now. I couldn’t see who I really was. Whoa, I’m speaking my truth right now! It feels good. Ahaa, I’m feeling into an empty space. It’s actually interacting with me right now. There is something there. It’s Love!
So, what’s your heart got to say? When you do this exercise for yourself what do you find? How did it feel to actually listen to your heart? How did the dialogue process go for you? What did your heart have to say? Were there any surprises? Maybe your heart gave you hope, or comfort, or love, or joy, or peace. Maybe it told you something you knew all along but had forgotten. My hope is that you will enjoy engaging with your heart directly. This Personal Heart Dialogue can become quite handy. It’s basically like learning to use a new muscle, which goes far beyond the brain. So, try it out. Have fun.