Early imprints leave their mark

Father and mother on couch reading to one child and nursing another with bottle.
“Parents Cerebral Palsy – Children both NO C.P., 1978” by Whiskeygonebad | CC BY-NC-SA 2.0

From birth to the age of about seven, we are like sponges, soaking up what we see, hear, and experience in our baby souls. We are filling up the hard drive in our new brain and body. We are imprinting our soul with the information gleaned from what we find in our surroundings. This means that we’ve learned the load-bearing part of what we know from our parents and caregivers. This is also how our parents learned from their parents, and so on.

Even though most parents tried to do the best they could, they were operating out of their own Shadow frequencies, the ones they themselves had unconsciously acquired in their own childhood.

This foundational process of learning is actually part of our genetic makeup. The problem is that it stunts our adult life if we don’t learn to process this early experience. Richard Rudd explains in The Gene Keys: Embracing Your Higher Purpose:

“Gene Key #50 has much to do with the way in which values are passed on from one generation to another. Repressed secrets or emotions lying between the parents will emerge through the life of the child, creating an atmosphere of unrest, unless both parents take responsibility for their own manifestation, which most parents don’t; parents assume it is the child what needs fixing, helping, or disciplining rather than themselves. This universal law applies particularly to children in the first seven years of their lives. Beyond this phase behavior is fully imprinted and the child may indeed need some form of deep understanding to shed the emotional load that was unconsciously placed on his or her shoulders.”

No wonder many of us are still searching to know ourselves more deeply. This is why we want to dig into our past imprinting to uncover the hidden patterns that we still carry consciously or unconsciously.

Early imprinting exercise

Note: If you just read this exercise, and don’t actually do it, you will only get a surface, academic understanding of yourself. But when you actually put your energy into doing this exercise, you will gain some new information about your old self. This is what is needed to see things from a new, broader perspective so that you can move along in your journey. So, let your inquiry process be an adventure. Here are the steps:

1. Write down everything you can about what your parents, or caregivers, said to you. Also write down everything you observed about your parents’ behaviors, feelings, etc. Throw in some things from other influential people like grandparents and teachers. Take your time. Let the information come to you. Remember, you were like a sponge from conception to age seven. You absorbed everything you saw, heard, and felt. It was just the way things were. It was your core truth.

2. Start to notice things you do or feel in your current life that give hints, echoes of these old imprints. Think about different areas of your life — Health, a sense of Wellbeing, Money, Success, Relationship, and your Beliefs about the world.

3. Next, write down everything you discovered about your past and your present self—all the patterns, themes, beliefs, feelings, and behaviors that still occupy your life.

What surfaced for me

For example, here are a few things that surfaced for me. Some of these past experiences still influence my life today:

Mom: Money isn’t important. It doesn’t make you a better person.
Dad: If you’re so smart, why aren’t you rich?

Mom: Don’t eat between meals, or just have an apple.
Dad: Let’s make gigantic sandwiches.

Mom: Don’t jump around so much. Keep your knees together.
Dad: Don’t be a sissy.

As you can see, my Mom and Dad were opposites:

Mom: was stoic, withdrawn, and miserly. She wanted to be alone. She very seldom showed emotion, or physical affection. Mom was often worried, angry, frustrated, embarrassed, or disappointed.

Dad: was bigger than life, overly exuberant, and open—going skinny dipping, tickling, and joking. Dad was outgoing and sometimes unnecessarily generous with his friends. He drank too much, wanted to party all the time, and sometimes got into fights. He was usually happy.

They couldn’t agree on anything and were always bickering. Between the atmosphere at home and the fact that I was confined to a windowless incubator for the first 21 days of my life, I did not feel safe, and I did not trust life.

Observations and beliefs

Here are some of the observations and beliefs that came out of doing this exercise. And if truth be told, they are still affecting my life:

Health/wellness: Don’t let anyone know when you are not feeling well. They will be upset, or uninterested.

Money: It’s selfish to have too much of anything. I only need money for security. I don’t want or need many things.

Success: Success is very different from what my parents believed. Rising to the top of an organization was fun, but it didn’t fulfill me. Success comes from what I’m learning on my spiritual journey. I am most happy when I am “in the flow” doing what I love—like writing, contemplating, or doing distinct, simple things like jigsaw puzzles.

Relationships: Feelings of separation, isolation, and safety still erupt in my life. I’m still working to release these old issues of trust or separation in my intimate relationship. I used to believe that the world was not a friendly place. Asking for what I wanted was a foreign idea and was seen as being selfish. If I wanted something, I had to make it happen myself. At this point, there is not much that I desire especially when I’m in the flow. I am happy and optimistic about humanity.

Our Shadow Selves

Once we’ve explored some of the old issues that continue to function in our lives as adults, it’s important to realize that these old messages come out of our Shadow selves. Remember, our 3D Shadow selves operate on a low energy frequency that binds us to a very limited version of our self and we are genetically programed to grow into our higher 5D Gift selves, which give us a whole different perspective on life. This is our aim—to live our fuller, more authentic lives.

Stay tuned, next time we will take a look at how and why we still carry our early experience around with us.